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Does Marriage Matter?

Love and its sometime attendant, marriage, has been much on mind of late. My brother and his long-term (very long-term. We do not rush these things in our family) got married the other weekend. The sun shone, there was dancing, and twinkling lights, and a lakeside blessing, and so much joy and love. It made me think about love: how do you know? What makes us so certain? And marriage: why, in our secular age, does it still matter?…


The First Kiss

My husband’s attitude towards talking about relationships is that they are like an antique clock i.e. don’t tinker with the mechanism. It works  (it’s still going!), be happy. I like the simplicity of this, but I’m a questioner: I like to know why (and who, what, when and where, should you fancy filling me in). I don’t over-think my own relationship (like most of us, I don’t have time, for starters) but I am fascinated by what makes other people’s tick. And I am, on occasion, given moment to pause and consider my own happy coupling. Like when I read this……


Jump, you say? How high?

I would like to think otherwise, but the truth is that I am a creature of habit. I like my little routines, the tick tick of everyday life: morning coffee, watering my garden, reading before bedtime, morning books with my daughter and husband at the weekend (we used to read the papers in bed, now Meg and Mog, Maisy and Alfie are our bedtime companions), croissants for breakfast on Saturday at my parents’ house. In truth, I feel discombobulated without these things. So change. Change I hesitate to embrace. However, I was thinking today that some of the best things have come from enforced change – when I have been forced to take leaps into the unknown. Witness.…


How would you feel if your husband was really good friends with another woman?

…And I mean really good friends. The kind of friends who enjoy drinks after work, chat on the phone at least once a week, go for walks together in the park? Would it make you feel uneasy? Jealous? I suspect it might. Although, perhaps it depends on how long they’ve known each other. Whether she’s attached. Whether she has kids……